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Getting Ahead While Getting Out
(To be released in Summer 2026)
Nobody has ever died solely from being single, but so many have died from being with the wrong partner.
We are well-aware of the woman who strategises her way into leaving her cheating husband and gets one over on him. But why hasn’t anyone adopted this approach when it comes to domestic abuse?
Getting Ahead Whilst Getting Out (GAWGO) is a strategy-based framework designed to help women leave abusive relationships safely, deliberately, and on their own terms.
What makes GAWGO different to other books on the market?
- It reminds women that they are intelligent decision-makers, not passive victims.
- It prioritises strategy over immediacy, with clear caveats.
- It centres planning.
- It gives power to a woman’s own thought process.
- It leads women to tools and resources that will support their best possible outcome.
- It recognises post-separation risk.
- It treats healing as part of the process, not as an afterthought.
Summary of GAWGO.
STEP | SUMMARY | OUTCOMES |
1 | Understanding domestic abuse using recognised definitions whilst highlighting the importance of intuition. | Understanding domestic abuse by taking a holistic and emotionally intelligent approach. |
2 | Strategic silence doesn’t mean doing nothing; it means choosing when, and with whom to speak to, while you plan your next steps. | Many women may find it safer to pause and strategise, if it feels safer for them to do so. |
3 | Due diligence means understanding the reality what you’re dealing with, so there are fewer surprises later. | Once you have all the facts, you will have better clarity which supports stronger decision-making. |
4 | Identify the outcome you are seeking to achieve and planning towards achieving it. | Use tools and resources to further your “best possible outcome”. |
5 | This step takes courage. Leaving can bring feelings of relief, fear and guilt. | Devise a safety plan and understand what risks you are exposed to when leaving. Return to your strategy when emotions run high. |
6 | Risk increases after separation. | Staying vigilant and seeking support are key. |
7 | Understand that this will be a confusing time, as you navigate work, life, children, and relationships. | Self-awareness and kindness to self is important. |
8 | Suggested therapeutic support to deal with trauma. | Healing isn’t linear, but once you get started you will start to see changes. |
Herstories
Herstories is a set of fictitious stories and seeks to achieve the same goal as Getting Ahead While Getting Out does in an emotionally intelligent way. Whilst the book itself covers the very serious issue of domestic abuse, the fictitious nature of it takes the edge off the subject-matter and addresses such issues in an informal and relatable manner.
The female lead characters in the book struggle to come to terms with the fact that they are victims of domestic abuse. What this book seeks to uncover are the ways in which abuse manifests itself and how abusers test boundaries from the beginning of a relationship.
Each character deconstructs what domestic abuse means to them using her own instincts and judgment, which leads to the objective outcome of leaving an abusive relationship by employing strategy. Herstories also includes a chapter on abuse that takes place within an LGBT relationship.
